Tuesday, March 3

Kacche Dhaage

I don’t know if I’ve told you about this guy who keeps sending unsolicited forwards, but here’s a very interesting thought he sent the other day – It's a wise man who lives with money in the bank; it's a fool who dies that way...

My neighbor expired on Friday (
remember I told you it was a bad day?) I wouldn’t have been too shaken if the circumstances hadn’t been so dramatic.

He was a lovable chap, roughly around 56-58 years old. Always dressed in his long chaddis and a white banian, he sat watching TV with the door wide open in the evenings. Whenever we used to walk up to our flat, he used to smile and say hello, not bothered about his attire or posture. I also remember him as he returned from work, straddling his daughter’s rickety yellow scooter. Quite a merry man...

The circumstances I’m talking about are this... He and his wife have two daughters, both married off happily, one abroad and the other right here. While the daughters have a few years between them, both of them happened to get pregnant and deliver a baby girl on the exact same day, a few hours apart on different parts of the globe. While the mother went to tend to the elder one in Canada, the dad stayed with the other daughter and her grandma in Pune.

Thanks to the internet, they shared experiences, feelings and pictures, and were due to meet soon as both new mothers had completed their interlude. His wife landed on Saturday dawn, but she was a few hours late to say a final goodbye to her husband who departed Friday evening. Massive heart attack. His local daughter says he was over excited to see his wife and other daughter. I wonder what his thoughts and emotions were...

Life is so unpredictable. Senior folks past 80 continue to live like
death has forsaken them, while youth and middle-aged people have their lives cut short by fate. Is this fair? Is this how it was always meant to be? That while we are anxious about road mishaps, people die at home without a flutter?

I've heard so much bad news last year related to babies and pregnancies... I wonder why
destiny is playing such games. Have people really erred so much??

I hate to think of this, but somehow bizarre facts get connected. Neighbor uncle died when my family was traveling to Goa. The last time Goa was mentioned was when another neighbor went there with her newly wedded groom for their honeymoon. While playing at the beach, he fell prey to a freak accident and lost his life...

The next time I hear of Goa, I’m going to pause and ruminate...

(Just like I do whenever I hear “Hey Ram, Hey Ram... Tu hi mata tu hi pita hai...” That was the song that was going on when I went to offer condolences at a family friend’s demise. How things get associated...)

Blood relations are sometimes not as strong as relations of the heart, which is often why friends and neighbors rank higher in the priority list versus relatives. Maybe that's why their misfortune and deaths affect us more...

Or perhaps they are, that is why I see siblings as thick as thieves (is that simile right?) who dote on each other and are not hesitant in declaring their eternal bond to the world.

Also a boss who doesn’t let her teenage son walk 1 kilometer to the school alone. The car plies up and down to lug the brat, even as the boss orders another’s child to ride alone 20 kilometers in the dense traffic all week for some work.

Even if the family is bickering away day and night, one cannot bear even a finger raised by a stranger on his/her family member. And that’s what makes it all the more special... (I don't quite know how a spouse who comes in a few weeks ago can be obeyed meekly by the guy who yells incessantly at his concerned parents, but that's how it's meant to be, I guess...)

Well, I don’t know where I’m heading, but now that this post is so all over the place, I might as well put all my thoughts in...

How can
people be so irresponsible and immoral? I know of this girl engaged to a guy studying abroad, and even as she professes her true love for him, she keeps another’s bed warm. There is a guy with retired parents and two sisters of marriageable age, and he doesn’t spare a thought as he squanders all his earnings in wine and fun. A guy gives up his job before he gets another one, and he’s chill, sitting at home, unruffled about how things will shape up.

Each person is a different individual, with his unique temperament, ambitions and principles. That is why we end up in conflicts. Coz one’s laziness is another’s concern, and one’s life is voluntarily not his own to live and direct...

I have a Q - Why don’t people christen their babies Shoorpanakha and Kansa? Coz they were evil. OK. How come they don’t call their babies Ghatotkacha or Seeta either? They were good people. True, they led hard lives, but then it ain’t right that kids are named
Karan – you do remember I spoke about his terrible life sequences, don’t you?

Thank you for reading.

Have a safe week!
Princess

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Cheers!!
Love,
ELATED Anuja

2 comments:

Sibi said...

This post today is one of yo best posts till date..Wowww strong ending told very nicely..I felt as if m reading some interesting novel which is bat to end..Bhot bhot bhot acchha likha aaj..Death, well wat can i say bat tat?can happen to anybody anytime and will happen to everybody...
Feel sad for the family..
About people being irresponsble,they will come to know of their responsibilities but m afraid its not too late wen they realize it..
Bat that $%^$&$^%$ I don't know where from people gather guts to cheat on the person whom u love or atleast pretend bein in luv...
M a fan of yo blog...

Lonely Princess said...

I'm honored you found this post as one of my best till date... Maybe coz you love stories ;-)

I was worried for a moment when I thought those abuses were directed towards me (!) but thanks for confirming it's for the woman who flirts wid one and is said to be going strong and serious with another... Vaaqai mein, log apni sharam and values kachre ke bhaav bech aaye hai...

Allah maalik!!

Thanks for commenting.

-Lonely Princess