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You, Me and Stress (Part 5)

Aloha!5's my lucky number and so, I'm going to make this post a little more personal and special...
A valuable point I came across in the Mars-Venus book (apart from those that I’ve already shared earlier) is the 90/10 principle. This means that men provide only 10% of the peace and happiness that women desire; the other 90% is what the woman herself is responsible for and it comes from various people in various ways. So, if a woman desires 100% support from her partner at every juncture, she’s setting herself up for disappointment. A woman is wrong in expecting her partner to be her primary source of love, support and understanding.
BOOM! Did I just wreck your world? Mine sure did…
I’ve lived my entire life believing that women rely on men for everything tiny and huge. So what if they can now earn and fend for themselves, a man is still supposed to be chivalrous and give a woman every damn thing be it mental, physical, emotional or material. Apparently not.
As Gray says, “let hi…

Woo hoooo!!

I’M OFF TO LEH - LADAKH FELLAS !!!
SEE YA WHEN I GET BACK…
ASTA LA VISTA :-)
Travellingly yours,
Princess

Been There, Done That

Now usually this phrase is used to talk about times when a person wants to show off his capability, versatility and experience.I plan to do just the reverse. I’m going to tell you exactly how ineffective and na├»ve I’ve been in so many ways. In the past. (Thankfully. I’ve grown with time, and seen myself change over the years… Though of course I still have the odd Alec telling me to “be mature”… as if I aren’t already! Duh…) Nobody’s perfect, right? But I’m getting there :-)
It’s the journey that matters, the joy isn’t in the destination.
Or at least that’s what they say.So I saw this friend lying to his girlfriend when we were out together. While he insisted that she wasn’t possessive, I presumed she wouldn’t be too happy to know that he and I were gallivanting for hours and having an awesome time. Which is precisely why he didn’t tell her the truth.It was easy for me to comment on his behaviour and criticise hers, but it was a bitter realisation for me that I, too, have had a similar…

You, Me and Stress (Part 4)

Helllooooooo!Ready for the gyaan session?Buckle up!! Let’s start with something extremely important…
- Men and women don’t complain about their partners when they are feeling good. Problems emerge when we are frazzled. Unrealistic expectations (such as that our partners be more like us) emerge when we attempt to get our partner’s help to lower our stress. The problem is never just our partner, it is also our inability to cope with tension and anxiety. It is unreasonable to expect our brains to suddenly adapt and thinking/behaving patterns to change. In fact, going by experience, people NEVER change. Every transformation that you observe is bound to be artificial and temporary. As is reiterated in the Hollywood flick Ugly Truth, men are incapable of growth, change or progress… (I didn’t say it, don’t pass judgements on my being feministic!)So, I guess your best bet would be to adjust with your partner the way he/she is, and in case you find that some qualities and aspects are just too …

Of Hearts and Hurts

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“You think we should start thinking about the next step? Do you think it’s time we got introduced to each other’s families? Maybe we should talk about our goals in the near future…”Gina was in a daze. Was she really hearing all this?Qabir was her idea of a terrific guy, flaws and all. She had fallen for him a few days after they’d first met, and she had dreamt of their lives together a few weeks later. She felt so right about this, she knew there was no going back. It was meant to be. She and Qabir were destined to be man and wife. All that jazz about pairs being made in heaven was true, and she’d found her soulmate.In six months, Gina had imagined their entire story as a happy, married couple.Until Qabir had walked out of her life a couple of months later.Gina was shocked.Lost. Helpless. Lonely.She had recovered from her pain with tremendous effort, and learnt to get over her sorrow amidst the love and support of friends. She let go of her shattered dreams as she immersed herself in …