Wednesday, October 15

Being a woman...


I mentioned last time I was ruminating over pregnancy. Not mine (ain’t married yet, tho I know marriage isn’t a prerequisite for getting pregnant)... And nor anybody else’s. Jus chewing over the pros and cons of this state...

It’s all about how old you are. I think when you’re younger, you most often think about boyfrens and affairs and mush-mush (who proposed to whom and what my boyfren gifted me on valentines) stuff. When you step into the golden years where your hair’s salt-and-pepper streaked - tho I’v seen this happen to the youth pretty early these days - all you wonder about are your younger days and the current whims and flaws (flatulence, irritation, et. al) of your spouse. At my age (when most of my peers and agemates are at various stages of getting married, already married, having a baby, and so on), I have experienced my fair share of love and fights, togetherness and loneliness, joys and excitement, sorrow and frustration (u get the point, don’t u?!) All part-and-parcel of growing up in a city like Pune. And now, what’s next? Even as my parents have started looking around for me, I duno jus how keen I am to get married. At times I feel it’s high time I tied the knot. (God knows how much I need a separate room of my own!) And at others, where I see marriages failing and marriages ruining the happiness of those involved, I feel I should consider skipping this episode. But well, one cant stay alone all one’s life, so marriage is bound to happen. To someone. Hopefully sweet and patient. My astrologer said 2009-2011 is the phase when mere haath peele honge (=literally means my hands will be yellow, but don’t worry I’m not catching jaundice or anything, it’s a standard line in India indicating that a woman is getting married)... So be it...

I duno why but I sometimes feel the desire to have a baby. If things had been right, I’d be playing with my niece now, and my maternal pining would be sufficed. To jus keep lookin at the pretty thing and noting all its expressions and actions with love. To hold it and feel responsible and protective. To pat it to sleep and feel complete. To consider its needs way more important and urgent than ur own. To go shoppin wid glee and come bac wid armloads of toys and clothes with nowhere to keep them as the house’s stocked to the limit... Ya, I aint forgettin the fact that there are sleepless nights and irritating wails and shrieks. But no pain no gain, see?

Offo, here I am talking about the subsequent stage when I started out to discuss the previous phase... The Q being - is pregnancy more beneficial or unfavorable?

I kno khandan ka chirag and carrying on the vansh are important concerns. But apart from that, how good is pregnancy? You wake up feelin grouchy and tired. You look fat and untidy. There are so many things u cant do and there are so many things u cant wear. Why the **** do ppl get pregnant??!!!

But well, ur skin starts glowing and ur hair looks lustrous and copious. People fawn over u and u can make the strangest requests in the world which are fulfilled right away! (Remember Salaam Namaste’s Ben & Jerry ice-cream saga?!) U don’t menstruate for 9 months (DO U F***ING KNOW HOW GREAT THAT IS?!!!!) and well, u dnt hav to worry about housework and stuff...Shop to ur heart’s delight, eat wat u pls and jus stay happy... Exercise and walk around doling out smiles by the dozen, and bask in all the love and attention... Wowwwww.... Sighhhhhhhh ...

Honestly, nothing is ourely good or only bad. There’s a good in every bad and a bad in every good. The theory of the Yin-Yang. My favorite Chinese symbol. It depends on what aspect you embrace and accept. What you choose to see and what you decide to detest. I bet if you sat down to pen all the incidents and circumstances in your life, you’d come up with the positives and negatives by the dozen. Jus a lil bit of thot, and the gates of enlightenment open up to you and divulge secrets and practical philosophy.

And finally, its all for the best! As the Big B also agrees, if you get what you wish, good. If you don’t all the better coz God will ensure you get the best... By da way, he was in the hospital on his bday (Oct 11). Duno what’s happening there, but I hope all’s well. The biggest superstar in Bollywood; we wudnt want to lose him so soon! (As proof of his undying popularity, the count of the comments on his last blog post as of now is a whopping 3900!)

Food for thought : When in a fight, getting angry and ignoring are the worst ways to handle the situation. These temporarily-enticing strategies, useful when avoiding the topic at hand, do not crack or calm issues in any way, instead it makes both parties feel frustrated and lost. Besides, the topic doesn’t end there, it returns to haunt you and worsen relationships. Until it meets its rightful resolution. Fortunately or unfortunately, life doesn’t give up like us humans....

What rocks! – Having a secret admirer!

What sucks! – Fake laughter

Hope u guys aint suffering from midweek crisis!
Cheerio!
Anuja

3 comments:

Ranu said...

dear Anuja
man ur confusing marriage with babies. they r 2 different concepts dont even start relating the two of them..... u will mess up both and suffocate in both. get married for the obvious reasons. If u really want babies adopt them.... sushmita sen has done it... she does look happy!!!

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Ravi said...

I can just say one thing Anuja... You write your heart out and your damn frank about it. Ur blog's a lovely read. gr8 work....