Thursday, December 18

The Power of Perception

You only see what your eyes want to see... How can life be what you want it to be... You’re frozen, when your heart’s not open...

Remember Madonna’s legendary track “Frozen”? The mesmerizing beats take you to another level even as the enchanting lyrics touch your heart...

You’re so concerned with how much you get, you waste your time on hate and regret... You’re broken, when your heart’s not open...

But hey, I’m digressing. (The song never fails to carry me away!) What I have been thinking these days is what is going to make up the content for this post...

Sometimes, even the best of deeds by a "perceived" rival/enemy are given the litmus test. "There must be SOME reason why THIS has been done THIS way"... The habit of taking everything concerning "that" person with a pinch of salt, chewing over notions and intentions...

I’ve said this before –
Situations are objective, it is our perceptions and interpretations that color our beliefs a particular way. So many times misunderstandings occur coz we think we know people and their purposes. How fallacious!

We have flashbulb memories. Take the
Mahabharata for instance. We are all content at believing the great war happened coz of Draupadi. But how many of us find it worth our while to actually go back to the records and see the inevitable sequence of events? That it was actually Shree Krishna, the master manipulator, who instigated Mayaa to build a palace that would generate envy among those who set eyes on it. Duryodhana, thus, green with envy, played the game of dice to win it, and then when everything was lost, fingers pointed at Dear Dro. We could also mull over Yudi’s role in the entire affair; had he not been so righteous, simple and naive, he would have seen through Duryodhana’s ploy to ruin the Pandavas, and would not have put Dro at stake. Or to consider Kunti’s part in the saga; the war would never have occurred had she revealed Karna’s true identity and lineage. (This is why Karna cursed her, that no woman would be able to keep a secret hereafter. And don’t we all know how effectual the curse still is!)

So, you see, blaming Dro and holding her responsible for the massacre isn’t the most accurate thing to do... If we put ourselves in her shoes (rather in her saree), then we’d understand how much humiliation and sadness she underwent... The grass is always greener on the other side, and others always appear luckier than the self.

That and a hundred other instances, show how our perception isn’t faultless, and there are two (or more) sides of the same coin.

We see Krishna as God, the Almighty, the Omnipotent who controls everything. How many of us know that He was as helpless as any other person, cursed to pine for His childhood love Radha? Beyond the realm of life, they could meet, but Krishna could not give up his body and soul before He had fulfilled his duty on earth, that of ridding it of evil.

Give people the benefit of a doubt, even the notorious folks. Be open. Ask candidly. Answer honestly. If someone lies to you, it isn’t too difficult to find out. But if one is telling the truth, you may manage to stay away from inhumane and imprudent blunders. The world is bad, but don’t abandon faith and belief just yet. We can’t live with misgivings all our life. We can’t mistrust all and sundry, and attempt to be happy and serene. It hurts when someone breaks our trust, but what hurts more is not being trusted despite being truthful. It kills the urge to turn over a new leaf if people keep misunderstanding everything you do or say. (My fav teenage line was – If you don’t trust me anyway, why should I explain or tell you anything at all?!!)

Krishna was a smart one. He used His knowledge about people, their behavioral and thought processes to create situations where His ends were achieved. And He got off scot-free coz He had played no part in the actual proceedings! Like He wanted Arjuna and Subhadra to meet and fall in love. Had He done so himself, He would have to bear the ire of his elder bro Balarama. The wily fellow, hence, asked Arjuna to pose as a muni, and exploited Bala’s deep reverence for their kind to land him a place in Subh’s garden, after which the Gandharva vivaha happened pronouncing Arjun and Subh man and wife.

Also, during the Rajasuya yagna that would declare Yudi the emperor of India, Kri purposely asked Dury to be put in charge of the overflowing treasury. He knew this would infuriate the Kaurava yuvraj and make him jealous.

What does it all add up to?

(No, not that we can ever be half as smart as Krishna, but we could sure do with some more wisdom and tolerance.)

One, that we should ponder before we act/operate; hasty decisions are often unwise.
Two, that before we form judgments about people, we must be sure of having the correct information and interpretation.

Quite a sermon!

Cheerio, folks!


Sibi said...

Hey first of all thanks for reminding the lovely song.U sing it betr than madonna at any point of time..
Ya we see everything as v want to see.There are always two sides to any story,even mo but surely not one..Trust is very imp.Trust builds in over a period of time.But it breaks very easily.Trust is like a house of glass,needs to be maintained very carefully..njoy.

Biprashish said...

Hi Lonely Pricess,
Just a quick correction. It was Yudhisthir who cursed Kunti, & not Karna. After Karna's death, when Kunti finally came up with the truth, Yudhisthir & the Pandavas were shocked. Yudhisthir believed that if Kunti had disclosed this earlier, Karna's death could have been avoided, as he deserved much more than life gave him.

I agree with you that Krishna was the one who made events happen.... and all this was based on the Divine design that he had to clean the world of the evil. He knew everything in advance, but behaved very mortal.

I believe, life for each one of us is based on what choices we make....

Lonely Princess said...

Hi Bips,

Is dat so? Thanks, I didn't know it... As I was discussin wid my mum yday - thr r so many versions of the Mahabharata and as many authors as interpretations! Really duno what the final truth is... But thanks anyway. Appreciate your commenting.

Warm regards,

vishal said...

hey anuja..from a very objective ooint of view it seems very very true when it comes to challenges in life..but sometimes not every thing seems to be in our hand..external factor is on move..don't u think?!

sumant said...

thats true..even the best of deeds by a "perceived" trouble maker is alwez given the litmus test..the qustion is do we actually trust our perceptions? People see what they want to see.

You can have the best eyesight in the world, but if a person chooses blindness and ignorance, there is nothing to be done.