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Woman vs Woman
Hello dear readers,
Wish you a delightful new year 2014 !!! Here are some resolutions worth having....
My first post this year is going to be about women... Glorious unpredictable women!
So much has been said and repeated about women, their
eccentricities, their strength, their good and evil ways.
Some of it true, most of it accurate. And yet we won’t
accept. Or we just might. Depending on what the context is and how it impacts
Fancy some more quotes on females? Here you go…
A woman knows the face of the man she loves as a sailor
knows the open sea - Honore de Balzac
If women ruled the world there would be no wars. Just a
bunch of jealous countries not talking to each other – Unknown
A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is
until you put her in hot water - Eleanor Roosevelt
Women are certainly strong creatures. Exactly the way
Abhishek Bachchan said in Hum Tum – that men could have bigger muscles, but
emotionally we are way superior. And that is probably why we have been blessed
with the ability to bear children. It’s said that the pain is equivalent to 20
bones breaking at the same time, way more than any normal human’s threshold.
Even Amitabh Bachchan applauds us on FB for this mind-boggling effort and
capacity! (So what if Russell Peters scoffs on it in his cheap Notorious Tour
So, all said and done – woman is a marvelous creation. She
may or may not have a pretty face but she deserves to be made to feel that she
is beautiful and precious. It’ll make her feel special and once she feels good,
she’ll return it a thousand times upon you. If she really loves and cares for
you, that is. Else, you are just somebody who pampers the ego and becomes the ‘best
friend next door’.
Any guesses on who makes life tough for a woman?
Spot on. Absolutely correct. Another woman. Who else?!!
We love making life difficult for each other. At work and at
home. We trouble our menfolk some, but we spare the worst agony for our women
colleagues and housemates. A woman not promoting another woman and choosing to
hang out with men at work is an example. A saas hating the bahu she herself
chose for her son is another instance. Unusual? Barely.
Why, I wonder. Should we not be more empathetic and caring
towards each other given that we have experienced the other side of the coin
ourselves? Men, I shall admit, are better than us in this matter. They get
along with each other, and they stay out of each other’s way if there is a
problem. Women will continue their nosy antics even when they dislike another
of their own kind and expect the other one to come and patch up... and still
act pricey! Damn.
Don’t count me as a women-hater. I am not. In fact, I quite
like this quote I read somewhere – “men and women are indeed not equal, thank
heavens for that! How can you trust men with so much power?!!”
However, I do see cold wars between women at all times, and
it is a sad truth. Can we not just give each other a break and take it easy? What
is the point in giving sorrow to someone your own kind? Forgive. Forget. Don’t
retaliate or break up at the smallest instances. Make an effort to maintain
relations. Give each other a benefit of a doubt. Confront if there is an issue
- speak to the person directly, not everyone else. Build, not destroy. Smile,
not screech. Hug and make up, don’t bitch.
Just do it.
A woman has enough troubles anyway. She has to control her
temper and ego more than a man. She has to get married and take care of the
house no matter how taxing her job is. She has to bow down in front of her
husband and his family even if she commands a thousand people otherwise. In so
many ways, she has to adjust and accommodate.
Just let her be herself. Let her be a child and a woman as
she pleases. Don’t mess with her joys if you cannot delight her yourself.
Really, just let the woman be. Whether you're from Mars or Venus or Hell, man or woman or whatever else. Just give her forgiveness, faith and freedom. And respect.
Remember, Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned :-)
The year has gone by real fast, as I've undoubtedly mentioned a hundred times before :-)
And I look back to see how I've fared, managed to accomplish a fair bit as a mother and professional, and tried to be a better friend, wife, daughter, etc. Evaluating my success on these criteria is outside the scope of this post, and my head, so let me look at how I'm feeling at the end of it.
Working moms like me, how are you doing?
I often end up feeling like I'm missing on so many things in life choosing to juggle my home and office work. The financial and intellectual independence that my job affords me takes its toll on my social presence and connects. I look at womenfolk in my apartment mingling with each other and talking non stop about issues that I cannot make head or tail of, since their conversation started in the kitty last week and will (hopefully) find a resolution by the kids play date the following week. Try as I might, I can't hold a complete conversation…
Almost a month since my last post, time to say Aloha June! Time's a-flying. Like someone once said, "the hours don't pass, but god knows where the months and years went" - okay, that's not exactly what he/she said, but this was the interpretation. More like "lamhe katt-te nahi, saal beet jaate hai". Work's catching up pace and I'm making up for all the lost and compromised time during my maternity leave and baby-raising tenure. Getting ahead at work is a task in a corporate world where people are forgotten the moment you don't connect with them regularly or do something to catch their attention. I've managed to do that and more, and my rating is proof of my effort. Feeling damn kicked about it, and want to do even better this year for my wonderful employer. I am blessed to be with Hitachi Consulting, and I pretty much plan to stick on unless something really extraordinary comes around. The kind of flexibility and support they've allowe…
Having to deal with idiots is no joke. Look around and you will find them in plenty, at work and outside - no dearth of them at all. Birdbrains, the bunch of them.
( Grrr )
And it's worse when you're having restless nights abounding in nightmares.
Not a mighty chirpy temperament that I'm in, I'm sure you can tell.
So, well. I'm back from my sojourn - first to the north and then down south (like not really down down, but kinda downer than where I generally am). I was thinking that I'd be pleased to be away from the city (and most importantly, routine) during this period. But well, I did get homesick after a while and wanted to return to home-made food and family.
Landing in Pune was a delight, and things are back to normal (too fast for my liking!)
So, for those of who are wondering why I'm getting nightmares...
(You forgot, right? That's all right. Shan't let you go unless I address this.)
So, I met my colleagues from Hyderabad, China and the US…