Birthday Love to an Awesome Hubby

Feb 14 is Valentine’s… (Happy Val Day you'all)

... And the next day - Feb 15 - is my better half’s birthday.

(Now honestly, that is a point of debate, since His Highness Akhilesh Pratap Singh actually graced Mother Earth on Oct 5, and even the exact year is arguable. Works for him I guess, since he can celebrate two birthdays in a year…Some people have all the luck in the world. God bless him.)

As wife and friend, and colleague and partner, and advisor and well-wisher (and a whole lot of other things), it becomes my duty to ensure that every day linked to him is special and memorable.

(Quite a task, given his simple and often critical or neutral reactions. Yet, here is my humble attempt!)

Let me tell you more about the ostensibly reticent and good-tempered Mr. Singh.

"What you looking at, mate?" - Attitude right in the pram

And here we are now, quite a hunk!!

He is handsome and tall, and has a personality to die for. Not only does he speak terrific English with his stunning accent, but he also is extremely charming and gentlemanly. Dependable and hardworking, trustworthy and responsible, he is an ambitious go-getter. All qualities that I chose to get hitched for…

He swings between extreme anger and good composure, and loquaciousness and silence. Dealing with his lack of expressiveness and imagination sometimes becomes a challenge, but he more than makes up for it when he has his spurts of romance and surprises. He can bend over backwards for family, sometimes even for friends and acquaintances.

He can overreact at times, and he can be immature on occasions. Yet, one look into his deep, gorgeous eyes and you will forget that you were ever annoyed or hurt because of him.

His hugs are the warmest and his smile is sizzling hot. And yet, he is a cool dude, fashionable and presentable all the time. His taste in electronics and his knowledge in his area of interests is remarkable, and he is quick to learn and faster to excel. I am an immensely proud wife for all these reasons!

He believes the best of everyone, and his love is selfless and unconditional. His generosity and helpfulness know no bounds and he is a true gem of a person in every sense. In every role, he blossoms and makes for an excellent friend, husband, colleague, brother, son, neighbour… you name it!

When we met in Dec 2010, he had recently joined IBM as a trainer, and I did not spare him a second look. But destiny had its plan chalked out, and we connected and drifted apart over the course of the next few months. When he asked me out in Feb 2011, I made him hang around a good 8 months before I accepted his proposal. Surprisingly, he waited. I had my reservations about boys in general, and him in particular, but all my fears and anxieties were laid to rest by his sincerity and affection.

Family was going to be a tough nut to crack, we knew. He is a Rajput (the honour killing kinds), and I a Marwari (the not so open yet tolerant types). Against our family opinions and orders, we continued to come closer and not once did our decision to marry waver. Not even during the worst fights… which have by no means ended, given both our flaring tempers and hypersensitivity… but the love is intact through it all.

We tied the knot on June 29, 2012; almost 8 months have passed. It’s been a roller-coaster of emotions. (After all, it is Mr. Ferris' 154th birthday!)


Learning, adjustment, dreams and their fruition... the span has been totally memorable!

What have we not done? We bought a bike and lost it, then bought another. We have travelled and had adventures at all hours of the day and night. Coffees and dinners, dates and movies. Buddying up with the families, dealing with each other at our best and worst moments, giving up and hanging on. Daydreaming together and plotting against others. Laughing and crying, barking and bawling. Been there, done that… and there’s still so much more to come.

When I think back to the times he has made me smile, it now brings tears to my eyes coz he loves me more than words can say.

When I recall our tiffs and downs, it only reminds me that we have remained together despite those setbacks and only grown closer.

When I close my eyes, I see his face and I know there is nobody else that I’d rather be with… He is what I wanted, needed and deserved. I’m one lucky girl!

On your big day, birthday boy, let me tell you that though you hate being called a baby, you shall always remain my baccha. I am crazy about you, and I still feel like a schoolgirl with a crush whenever I see you or talk about you. Thank you for being mine :-)

I promise I will love you forever, and I will do all it takes to make you happy. I will stay by your side through thick and thin, and take care of you. Even though I give you grief on certain predictable occasions, I will ensure that I only get better by the day and prove myself worthy of you and your love.

You’re my dream guy… and I can’t be without you… even when I can't stand you. 

I wish you all the luck and success in life, and I am sure all your wishes will be fulfilled, coz they’ve got no other choice. Have a super day and a beautiful year ahead. May this year be the best of your life, until the next!

Loads of love,
Bubu :-)